1. Prioritize Scripture over strategy.

When it comes to discipleship, the temptation is to start with books to read, meetings to schedule, goals to hit. And plans are great. But the real power doesn’t come from your organization. It comes from the Word.

Start by opening your Bible together. Let it guide what you talk about and shape your hearts. Discipleship isn’t about making people like you. And meditating on Scripture reminds us that it’s about making people more like Jesus.

2. Listen more than you talk.

Sometimes we’re afraid to disciple someone because we feel like we can’t answer their questions. But people don’t need a biblical guru more than they need a Christian comrade.

Jesus modeled this for us. While He definitely taught in His sermons and parables, He also asked questions that winsomely confronted people. You can do the same. A thoughtful question can do more to stir up faith and sin-awareness than a 10-minute monologue ever could. When in doubt, ask questions, listen, and trust the Spirit to work.

3. Slow down.

Discipleship takes time. It doesn’t sprout up overnight like a dandelion. It’s more like tending a garden. You show up, plant seeds, water the soil, and then wait. Some days feel quiet, like nothing’s happening. But then, out of nowhere, a sprout breaks through. A leaf. A bit of fruit. And in that moment, you realize—the growth comes from God.

And the slowness? That’s more than okay. Faithfulness isn’t as fast as Usain Bolt. But marathon runners get gold medals, too. So stay steady. Keep praying. Celebrate the little wins. The harvest isn’t up to you—it’s God’s job.

4. Don’t forget their hands.

Discipleship isn’t about cramming facts—it’s followership. I used to think it was enough to teach someone what to know. But that’s not enough. Jesus didn’t say, “Teach them everything I’ve commanded.” He said, “Teach them to observe everything I’ve commanded.”

Think of it like coaching a quarterback to throw the ball, not just memorize the playbook. They can have the best plays in the world. But if they can’t throw the ball, they won’t win the game. That’s when faith starts to move.

5. Always point back to Jesus, not yourself.

When someone trusts you, it’s easy to feel responsible for their growth. But if you try to be their rock, their answer, or their hope—you’ll burn out, and they’ll miss what they truly need.

Before I was a pastor, I had a mentor who discipled me as I learned to teach the Bible. I honestly don’t remember a single thing he said. But I do remember how much I grew in my love for God and His Word. My mentor’s presence pointed me to Christ, not to himself—and that’s what stuck.

Point to Jesus. Every time. In their joy, in their pain, in their doubts. You’re not the Savior—and that’s really good news.

If you’re not in a Growth Group yet, let me challenge you: don’t try to grow alone.

Growth Groups are one way discipleship happens at Soteria Church. They’re made up of imperfect people who are serious about following Jesus together. You don’t need to be a Bible scholar to join. You just need to be willing to grow with others who are walking the same road.

If you’re ready to learn the Word, ask good questions, walk slowly with others, and grow on purpose—this is your next step.