Pastor Q&A // Part 2

QUESTION: What are some of the best ways that an older sibling can be a blessing and pour into their family?


Not knowing whether this question is from a parent or a sibling, I will answer it from both perspectives.

First, if you are a sibling asking this question and looking for ways to serve your family, be a contributor. Choose to put others above yourself in the little things. The apostle Paul in his letter to the Romans, tells us to “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves...practice hospitality.” These commands are written to the broader church but start with those closest to you. For instance, play what they want to play, help them tidy up their room, teach them how to wash a dish or clean a toilet, learn a scripture verse together and talk to them about what God is teaching you.

Second, if you are a parent asking this question, I would like to give you the philosophy that my wife and I use. We have made a very concerted, but not perfect, effort to make sure that our children don’t feel like they are raising each other. For example, when we leave the house, our oldest child is not the boss of our youngest child. She may have to help our youngest, but not in the sense that she is the parent or has authority. We encourage them to serve and love one another, as mentioned above. We see it as our responsibility alone to pour into our children. (Deut. 6:4-9) The relationship between my wife and I is the primary example that my children will see and learn how to treat others. Our hope is that our children will see a godly example to follow.